In order to give from a clearer and healthier place,
get super clear about why you are giving to someone else.
Be honest with yourself.
Do you want to give because:
1. you feel obligated
2. you feel sorry for someone
3. you want to be helped out when it is your time
4. you want to be selfless
5. you want to practice kindness
6. uou feel that if you don't give to them, then there will be no else to assist them
7. you want to practice karma yoga
8. you want something in exchange
9. you want to save them